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As you navigate life in your 50s and beyond, you may discover that you’ve become part of the sandwich generation – simultaneously caring for aging parents while supporting your children. It’s a time that can be rewarding and challenging. Still, without proper planning, it becomes infinitely more complicated and stressful. That’s why it’s essential to have legal documents in place to ensure your loved ones receive the care they need while protecting your financial and emotional well-being.
Though it’s tempting to shy away from difficult discussions about estate planning with aging parents, addressing this topic is necessary. Sometimes there’s the unspoken fear that simply talking about estate planning will jinx them and hasten their passing. We suggest acknowledging that death is inevitable, so it’s better to plan ahead and avoid the risk of unpleasant surprises.
Important Conversations
Discussions about death and dying are inherently difficult for adult children and their parents to begin. It isn’t easy to imagine a future without your parents, on the other hand, your parents may struggle because they do not want to burden you with such a heavy topic. It can be confusing and emotional, but families need to communicate openly and honestly about end-of-life wishes. By doing so, everyone will feel heard, respected, and prepared for whatever comes their way.
Reframing this topic as “a gift to loved ones” can help ease concerns. Having these heartfelt discussions about estate planning sooner rather than later makes a difference. It’s all about considering the what-ifs – such as what would happen if your parent became disabled, needed skilled nursing, or was diagnosed with Dementia or Alzheimer’s? Would you be able to step in and take charge of their finances, or make healthcare decisions, or would you be left overwhelmed and unsure of what to do? Understanding their wishes regarding end of life healthcare is especially critical: would they want to be kept alive on life support, or would they prefer fewer interventions? With legal preparations completed, you will be ready to help them when the time comes.
Starting the Conversation
One of the best ways to jumpstart the discussion around estate planning is for you to lead by example and get your documents in order. By walking through the process step by step and understanding the decisions that need to be made, you will gain insight into the process and why it’s necessary. Once you’ve gone through it, you often feel more confident and empowered to share your experience with your parents. Knowing that you can be a helpful guide in this process will likely motivate them to get started!
Sometimes, aging parents are self-motivated to start planning after watching a close friend face difficulties. This event is a wake-up call, reminding them of their mortality and prompting them to act. People who recognize the potential challenges of aging, such as declining health and the loss of independence, may be more likely to take proactive steps to mitigate these issues. By making lifestyle changes, seeking out supportive resources, and putting plans in place for the future, they can equip themselves and their loved ones to deal with challenges as they arise.
Necessary Documents for Finances & Healthcare
Future challenges can include the sudden inability to manage finances. Without a designated person to assist, it can quickly become a significant problem. Bills and taxes may go unpaid, and their spouse may be unable to pay living expenses without access to accounts. Trying to help an incapacitated parent move into a nursing home can be even more challenging. Without a Power of Attorney, you may need to petition the court to become their guardian, which can be lengthy, costly and complex. For your parent, NOT properly executing a Power of Attorney while they have capacity, means losing the ability to choose who acts on their behalf when mental capacity may be diminished.
It’s easy to think that loved ones will know what we want regarding healthcare. After all, they know us better than anyone else, right? However, this might not always be the case, especially when multiple loved ones, such as adult children, are involved. For example, what will happen if you and your siblings disagree on the best treatment for your father should he become incapacitated? The doctors won’t be able to do anything if your family can’t agree on a plan. That’s where a Healthcare Proxy comes in. This proxy (agent) will be able to make decisions on your father’s behalf when he can’t and carry out his wishes. It’s important to have someone your parents trust in this role and for them to share their wishes with this person ahead of time.
The Risk of Dying Without a Will
Both you and your aging parents must realize that dying without a Will means giving up all input in how an estate is divided. In effect, you’re allowing the state legislators to decide how your estate should be distributed.
Without a clear plan for how to distribute assets, there is also the risk that their property will be exposed to the claims of creditors or other unwanted parties. The result can be a lengthy, expensive legal battle between family or loved-ones causing even more stress for your family. A lack of proper tax planning and asset preservation strategies may also result in a much smaller inheritance to pass on than what was intended.
The Impact of Alzheimer’s
When everything is going well, paying for professional legal advice may appear unnecessary. However, when you consider the risks of Alzheimer’s, prioritizing short-term savings over long-term security can result in significant negative financial consequences. Regrettably, many individuals postpone establishing a proper plan until it is too late.
One of the sad realities for those with Alzheimer’s is that their condition progresses to the point where they can no longer make critical decisions for themselves. Though we try to have meaningful conversations with those affected by the disease, often it’s too late and they lack capacity to sign documents necessary to give that power to others. That’s why it’s crucial to have necessary discussions and make legal preparations while your parent still has capacity.
DIY Legal Documents are a Problematic Shortcut
In some situations, families come to us with a DIY Power of Attorney, usually one they found online. They typically don’t realize that there’s a problem with the document until their loved one has already lost their mental capacity and can’t sign new documents. It may come to light that the document is incorrect when they are being told “no” by healthcare providers or financial institutions while trying to help their parents. It’s a harsh reality, but these generic and incomplete documents can cause significant legal issues and angst. This becomes especially problematic when a new document cannot be signed, creating a frustrating situation for all involved.
Seeing the consequences of a poorly executed DIY Last Will and Testament is also disturbing. Not only does it fail to honor the deceased’s intentions, but it can also have unintended consequences, such as disinheriting a spouse.
Seeing the trust some people place in online resources that cannot factor in their unique situation is disheartening. There is no substitute for personalized legal counsel when planning for your loved-ones. Investing in a knowledgeable estate planning lawyer provides peace of mind and the assurance that loved ones will be cared for.
Personalized Estate Planning
At Meier Law Firm, we take the time to get to know our clients and their situations thoroughly. We understand estate planning can be overwhelming, so we provide a supportive, judgment-free environment. Our compassionate team is dedicated to helping you meet your goals and protect your assets, all while keeping your family’s unique situation in mind. We understand this isn’t just paperwork – it’s your family’s legacy. Whether you’re just starting on this path or already knee-deep in the caregiving experience, we’re here to offer support and guidance every step of the way.
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At Meier Law you can count on us to provide counsel without judgment in all areas of estate planning and administration. They strive to make their clients to feel comfortable and secure while developing their estate plans by being skilled, direct, and honest with every individual they serve. Meier Law understands the gravity of each situation and strives to earn your trust so we can advise you in the best way possible. If you have any questions or concerns about creating an estate plan, don’t hesitate to call and schedule a consultation!
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